Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Woe, is Me!

I was talking to one of my students yesterday and she was sad that it has been 30 days and I have not placed her yet. The market has been slow and it has only started to pick up since last week as far as placements, so I am sure she will get placed in the next 30 days.

Everyone knows how to deal with success, but your true character comes out when you have to deal with adversity.

So this young lady was feeling sad and bad about her fate, since she has been working so hard and did not get placed.

I was telling her that she is so young and has barely lived and has not faced real adversity.

There are so many factors that allow one to become successful, and some of them include, hard work, luck, timing, and natural talent.

A confluence of those factors cause one to be successful.  Sometimes it takes time, and sometimes it happens quickly.

I believe that Hard Work will simply give you more opportunities to become successful, but I believe that luck will also play a big part of success.

Anyway back to adversity.  As I was telling this young lady, her 30 days of adversity or bad luck as she terms it, is simply nothing in terms of adversity.

Let your wife come home as you are playing with your 2 kids and tell you that those kids are not yours and she slept with another man and the kids are his.

That is adversity.  Try and deal with something like that, to bring out someones character.

Yes the market is slow and I have not placed you as fast I would like, but trust me, your adversity is nothing.  Keep studying and working hard and I guarantee you that you will be successful in the long run.

Here are some true life stories of adversity from people I know to show you what real adversity is:

Story 1:

A couple after 15 years of marriage and the husband having a great job, comes home and tells his wife that he has lost all the money gambling they have saved and they are now $100,000 in debt.

Another great story of adversity, what would you do?

Story 2:

A married couple have 2 kids.  The husband is a doctor and the wife is a housewife.  The wife one day says that she wants a divorce, because she did not imagine all she would do in life was be a mother and she had dreams of her own.  Later on it is reveled that she slept with his partner in their medical practice.  The practice dissolves and the husband had to start all over in his career. 

Another great story of adversity, what would you do?

Story 3:

A successful doctor lends a lot of money to his brother in India to start a business.  His brother becomes a big success in business, but is not paying back his brother. 

Not really a story of adversity, but what would you do?

I could go on and on with real life stories of adversity, but you get the picture.  My student has not faced any real adversity, but some bad timing as far as the job market.